A person who represents things as they might or should be rather than as they are
A person who tends to view or represent things as they really are
Geoff and I are complete opposites when it comes to the way we view certain things. He's the eternal realist, and I'm the 'head in the clouds' dreamer. This causes quite a few interesting 'conversations' and although I often wish that he too was a dreamer in our relationship, I have to admit that having two dreamers would be very dangerous (and expensive), while having two realists would be extremely boring. So, I guess we balance each other out in a way but it still creates alot of unnessesary arguments. Here's a perfect example!
Me: "Can't we go away for a weekend soon? We haven't been away in almost 5 years!"
Geoff: "Let's first see how things go"
Me: "Look at these nice guesthouses..."
Geoff: "Love, we can't afford it right now"
Me: "But can't we just have a look and see what's out there and plan to go later in the year?"
Geoff: "What's the point of getting excited about something if we don't know it's going to happen?"
Bubble burst and that's normally the point where the argument starts. He can't understand my point of view of wanting to get excited about a trip and plan, and I can't understand his black and white facts.
I'm sure there are many couples out there who have similar conversations. My question is, how do you get around this and compromise? A dreamer doesn't want to see the cold hard facts, and a realist doesn't want to day dream about something that 'might' happen.
While browsing on this interesting topic, I came across compatibility signs. I don't fully agree or believe everything written on star signs, but it is pretty interesting reading about the Capricorn (Geoff) and Saggattarius (Me) compatibility. Here's what I came across: